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A private chat for two

Choose each other. Again. Today.

Troth is a private chat for the two of you, opened by questions worth answering — and built to carry you from small talk to the things that matter.

Begin the ritual

Now in beta on iOS.

What it is

A conversation, started by the right question.

Troth isn’t another messenger, and it isn’t a quiz. It’s a private chat for just the two of you — seeded with carefully chosen questions that open the conversations most couples never quite get to.

The question is the spark. The conversation is the point.

Why this matters

The distance is real. So is the cure.

Loneliness is not a mood — it is a measurable public-health crisis. And the strongest protection against it was never money, status, or a fuller feed. It is a person, and the care you give them.

The ache

~50%

of U.S. adults report measurable loneliness.

U.S. Surgeon General Advisory, 2023

61%

of young adults aged 18–25 report serious loneliness.

Harvard Making Caring Common, 2021

15 a day

Chronic disconnection raises the risk of early death by about as much as smoking that many cigarettes.

U.S. Surgeon General, 2023

~11 hrs

The average person spends that long each day on solitary media — while two people who live side by side can go years barely turning toward each other.

The Good Life · Harvard Study of Adult Development

The cure

The #1 predictor

An 85-year Harvard study found the quality of your close relationships is the single strongest predictor of lifelong happiness and health — more than money, fame, IQ, or genes.

Harvard Study of Adult Development

50 → 80

How satisfied people were in their relationships at age 50 predicted their physical health at 80 better than their cholesterol did.

Harvard Study of Adult Development

Love is not a feeling you fall into. It is a practice you keep.

The catch in all that research is the same: relationships only protect you if they are nurtured. That is exactly what Troth is for.

The heart of it

We are moved, in the end, by love.

Humanity has always been carried forward by feeling — by anger and grief and longing — and the greatest of these has always been love. It is the one thing a life cannot do without.

And it has rarely been harder to hold onto. A generation raised on screens is finding it harder than any before it to build the kind of closeness that lasts. Troth was made for exactly that — to help two people turn toward each other, on purpose, again and again.

A note from the founder

I grew up watching my father break after he and my mother divorced. I was raised to believe that the single most important thing in life is love.

My fiancée and I have come through real hardship together — by turning toward each other instead of away. Troth is built from that conviction: that love is not a feeling you fall into, but a practice you keep.

— The founder of Troth

Read the whole story

Closeness is built in the small hours, not the grand gestures.

How Troth works

A question opens it. The conversation does the rest.

It asks little of your day. Troth offers a question — the kind you would never quite think to ask — and your private chat carries it from there.

  1. 01

    A question opens the door

    Troth hands you a question you would never quite think to ask — chosen for where the two of you are. It is not a quiz. It is a way in.

  2. 02

    You talk, in your own words

    From there it becomes a real conversation in your private chat — unhurried, honest, just the two of you. The question lights it; you carry it wherever it needs to go.

  3. 03

    You discover each other

    Conversation by conversation, you move from the surface toward the depths — and meet the person you thought you already knew.

They answer because you do. You answer because they do. That quiet, mutual pact is the whole point.

Four depths

From small talk to true knowing.

The questions begin where it’s easy to begin, and deepen only as far as you let them — tier by tier. Swipe through the four.

Light

01

Where the day meets the door — easy questions that warm the room before the deeper ones can be asked.

What small thing made you smile today?

Personal

02

The texture of a life. What shaped you, what you carry, the ordinary history only a partner should know.

What did your younger self most want to become?

Vulnerable

03

The questions that cost something to answer — where trust is spent and, in the spending, deepens.

When did you last feel unseen by me?

Intimate

04

The unguarded center. What you have never dared to say, said gently, to the one person meant to hear it.

What do you need from me that you have never asked for?

A vow is not a moment. It’s a practice.

Betrothal was never about a single day. The old word — troth — meant a pledge you kept, morning after morning, in the small and unwitnessed hours.

That is what Troth is built to protect. Not the wedding, but the ten thousand quiet days after it. The opposite of betrayal isn’t loyalty. It’s presence.

A private place

The most intimate words you’ll write deserve the most care.

Your words stay yours

The things you tell each other here are private correspondence. We treat them that way — not as content, not as a product.

Never sold, never mined

We do not sell your data, and we do not fund Troth with advertising. A devotion built on surveillance would be a contradiction.

Yours to take back

You can ask us to delete your account and your conversations at any time. What you shared was always meant to belong to the two of you.

Made to be kept

Begin for $2.99 a month.

One subscription, everything unlocked. The annual plan — $19.99, about $1.67 a month — saves roughly 44%. We priced it on purpose: staying close should never be a luxury.

Troth is in the hands of its first couples now.

Their words are still being written. When they’re ready to be shared, you’ll find them here — real voices, never invented ones.

Say the things that matter while they still can be said.

Free to try on iOS